As you may know if you’ve been reading my blog for a while, last year I crocheted a set of Christmas baubles. We also bought a living tree last year, for the first time, and the baubles were gradually added to it as I made them. This has started a new tradition for us. We brought our tree into the house yesterday and my daughter added all the crochet baubles to it. Some Christmas traditions are very old, but we don’t have to stick to what’s always been done, and can create our own new traditions.
I’m loving the new shoots on our tree – all that lovely fresh green growth. It’s good to see that ‘Mr Tree’ was happy outside for the year! It makes me happy just to look at him 🙂 We will be careful not to keep him indoors for too long, but it’s so lovely to have a real tree.
Sometimes there is a lot of pressure at this time of year to have the perfect tree, the perfect decorations, the perfect Christmas meal, the perfect everything! But that’s not how life really is, is it? This year, of course, things are different for most of us due to Covid-19 restrictions, so we’re all looking at different ways to celebrate the holidays. And not everyone has happy memories of this time of year and for people who have lost loved ones it can be a very painful time.
So I think we should try not to let the pressure get to us, and do Christmas in our way, whatever that way is. Obviously I’m not a psychologist or a Christmas expert, but here are some of my thoughts about having the best holiday for you …
- If you don’t feel like celebrating, don’t celebrate! You don’t have to pretend. But do try and ask for help if you are really struggling, you don’t have to do it on your own.
- If you love going all out and cooking a massive traditional meal, cook away! It might last you a few days if there are less people round your table this year, but that’s ok.
- If you just want to eat your favourite foods (or safe foods) that are nothing like a traditional Christmas meal, go ahead. Making yourself eat something you’re not comfortable with is not a good way to celebrate! Make your own tradition… Christmas pizza, Christmas mac’n’cheese? Why not?!
- If you’re missing someone, feel that feeling, don’t try to shut it away. It’s natural to be sad at occasions that you have spent with them in the past. Try and think of the good memories if you can, and if possible talk to others who are also missing them and share your memories with each other.
- If you know someone who is going to be feeling sad at this time of year, let them know you’re thinking of them, and don’t expect them to be up for big celebrations. If restrictions allow, let them know they’re invited, but if they’re not up to it you won’t be offended.
- If you love covering your house with flashing lights, go for it! But don’t judge others for not doing the same.
- Remember you don’t have to spend a fortune on gifts. Often the most precious gifts are hand-made presents or small things that you can see that a lot of thought went into.
- If you are fortunate enough to be able to spend Christmas with those you love, be thankful. Try not to regress to your childhood and bicker with your siblings! 😀
- Give yourself and others space. Sometimes the expectation at Christmas is that you will spend every minute of your time with your family doing things together. That’s difficult for some people who need time on their own to rest and recover after socialising. Don’t be offended if someone just needs to have a quiet moment.
- Remember that ‘this too will pass’ and there will be times in the future when you can hug your family again, or spend time together. Just think how amazing it will be when you have that first hug!
- Be kind. Remember that others may be struggling even if you’re not. A simple smile, or a ‘Merry Christmas’ can actually make a big difference to someone’s day if they are feeling alone.
- Be safe. Be well. Stick to the Covid-19 restrictions where you are.
Do you have any thoughts to add to this list? I’d be interested to hear what you think.
On the Hook, 19/12/20
As I’ve already got photos of crochet in this post I’ll just throw in a bit more! I’ve started making a jumper out of some yarn my Mum got me for my birthday. I’ve spent a few days pondering patterns and have started a few but they weren’t quite right. But then I found the Anemone jumper by Lena Fedotova, and I love it! It includes star stitch which I am loving. Here it is so far:
This post was inspired by my Christmas tree and the Lens-Artists Photo Challenge: And here comes the holiday season.